FIRST TANDEM OF THE YEAR: UNDERSTAND & FORGIVE --- (and learn from it)

"...people change, even good people, if they get the wrong thing in their head. And not everything is always what it looks like and sometimes just because one person looks weak, they might be very strong, and another person might look like a spooky freak but he might be one of the kindest people you'd ever meet. And I guess I learned that time is slippery...We have to enjoy every second, love with all our hearts, all we can, while we can.”  ― Lee Thompson

How i really wish that sometimes, people will also understand and respect your feelings and NOT take that for granted. Sometimes, in some situations, people always believe that you will ALWAYS understand them, even in an obvious situation that they are the ones at fault. There are many circumstances when we encounter people like this. Does it has to do with familiarity? It's when you open the door to certain people and when that door is fully opened, sadly.. some will just take that as an opportunity, an opportunity for you to become their prey. 

It feels so funny when people don't let go of the past. They stick on that memory and will use that as their defense mechanism to protect their guilt. Pathetic! What a sad way of letting go of someone whom you thought its a good person. 2015 is here and like the rest of us, let go of the past and life must move on. Unfortunately, even if you're avoiding those past (unhappy) experiences and negative people, they are always there. Lucky there's a word.. 'choice". On the other hand, I always believe that when you are kind to these people, you are always the victim of their trashy personalities.

Many experiences came along my way and i tell you, all those experiences thought me to understand the word, FIERCE! Even though this may seem pretty obvious to a lot of people, you still find way to realize how lucky you are.

The other day, i received a message from a good friend, she mentioned to me about her crappy experiences. Apparently, stories were accumulated and she can't take it anymore. I asked her how things happened and she started to tell me.. "i heard from..... " I listened to her stories until she felt better, whilst reading all her stories, i realized that i just wasted 60 seconds of time, reading all these non-sense so i told her.. "you're basically hurt because of the stories, YOU HEARD?..." and she replied and said... "yes, because the person who told me was a close friend of mine..."



The day, i discovered the people who are truly fake (at least from what i've proven was right) i've given another chance (they don't even know that.. lolz..) until i had enough of them and honestly, it was very easy for me to accept who they are.. t'was an A-plus to let go, to understand, to forgive and to never forget what they taught me (on how) to deal with them, perhaps? Mostly, there will be NO space of sorrow or anger. Purely, gained my inner peace... and for their own benefit, it's a free world after all, so i'm just gonna enjoy eating my pop-corn watching them with their own little, tiny, bitsy, mind grinding with all their stories on their brains and proclaim they are always RIGHT.. lolz.. 



I don’t appreciate being judged, and I know I don’t deserve it. Just like none of us deserve misdirected rage from a family member, coworker, or stranger. We have a right to set boundaries and communicate when something is not okay. But the world is a better place when we choose to do that from a place of love and compassion, instead of righteousness and judgment. We all act thoughtlessly at times. Most often we don’t mean to hurt each other. We just don’t recognize or remember how to STOP hurting ourselves.

...JUST DON'T HAMMER MY BACK, PLS...

...funny thing is that, you are so damn nice infront of me, as if you carried the sympathy of the whole wide world but by the time you turn your back, OMG... you're so lame...  amazing!!!!

oh well, i agree that we all are like that sometimes, unaware that we say things that we all agreed at anyway... we are humans, we are unique.... but to over do it? c'mon! 

If we can see that someone has a fault and just say that there is nothing wrong, then that is pointless and does not help at all. If we tell the person that what they are doing is not too serious and later speak badly of them behind their back, that is not good, either. We should say what we think to their face. we should clarify what is necessary and separate truth from falsehood. If we have doubts then we should express them. Even if our words are a little harsh, we should say them anyway. ( i think im frank, im like that sometimes but other people always misunderstood me from being so frank, i mean, i really speak my mind.... di naman ako mayabang and why should we go mayabang anyway, in fact, i have nothing to ipagmayabang.... lolz..)

anyways, it will always clarify our thinking and any gossip will be unfounded. I learned that now that if we confine ourselves to smooth-tounged and polite remarks, there will always be a basis for distorting rumour because even when i say things the nice way, it will always come out the bad anyway, so why being so polite all the time, lets do direct talking... better!

I always believe that if our intentions are good, i think no matter what happens, you will always achieve your goals but if our intention is pure selfishness and pure self "lifting"...  you may achieve a little but we will never achieve that goal.